There comes a point in life when you can find yourself going to a lot of funerals. For me, one of the most poignant moments can occur during the eulogy when statements are made about a deceased friend that you never really knew: how John had played ice hockey for his national team as a teenager, or how Julie’s mum had been a nurse on the front line in the First World War and it was for that reason that she had taken up nursing. Or that Tom’s uncle was a famous footballer. What I find sad about those moments is how, in all our discussions, we had never discovered or talked about these things before. This set of questions create space for those around the table to get to know each other better.